The room was very nice and the view was even better.
Anyway, we met up with a few other friends of ours and our one girlfriend has been in a relationship for about 4 years, and she tells us that she is Board in her relationship and that he is just romantically challenged. He never does anything surprising or just grabs her and just kisses her for no reason. Then she tell us that she always initiates them having sex!! Yes I know your mouth just popped open! Once we all stopped being in shock the 100 questions started then the next 88 started. I just had to know was he this way when they were dating? (Side Note: I know he wasn't, because I remember how many dates she missed with me because, they had an afternoon meet up)
No he actually was very exciting and such a take charge of our romance and never could keep his hands off of me. Then, She gave us this very juicy story about a trip to his families home and we all were blushing when she was done. It started me thinking on my way back home from Vegas, would a man do just about anything to get you? Then once they have you, they stop even trying to impress you? When did it become okay for him to become boring and romantically challenged? Why hasn't she left him or at least found outside entertainment? My mind was racing and I couldn't wait to get home and have this great talk with her.
She stated to me "You fall in love with this person and you have now invested so much time and effort into the relationship that you just don't want to call it off". I said "well you would rather be board, upset, need Botox, a few drinks and a great vibrator to just keep your sanity?" After a little chuckle between the two of us she said "You know I think you become afraid that no one else will want you and that you wouldn't find a person who would love you." I'm sorry right about now I threw up a little bit in my mouth because, that is some sort of mind game that this jerk has put on her and made her think she would or couldn't be loved like he does.. HELLO BREAKING NEWS!! HE ISN'T GIVING IT TO YOU LIKE HE USE TO!! As I was walking down the street to my car, my mind just kept thinking about this subject. Is it okay just to settle so you can have a replica of a great relationship but, in all honesty it's all just smoke and mirrors.
Why do we as women, do this to ourselves and think it's okay. When do we stop the rat race and the pure fakery of it all and say hey look I'm not really feeling how you don't excite me any longer, and that you don't treat me the way you use to. I deserve to be treated and loved the way you use to and damn it if you can't just leave me alone!! I feel as a woman, I can have the best of both worlds and not be sorry about it!! If I want a guy who is exciting and challenging and spontaneous. and he just better stay that way even after he gets me or he might as well kiss this sweet thing good bye!!
Ladies don't give up your power make your guy work even harder to keep you. Keep your sexy or the it factor that you had when he met you. Never let him get overly comfortable, because Once you let go of your power you'll start getting Board and Romantically challenged by your boyfriend/husband and then he will expect you to just except what he is settling into which is NOTHING.
Smooches!
This is Views of a Socialista!
Can't wait until we get together again!!
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